For the guys and the women who live with them: hysterectomies, sexuality and old wives' tales

A hysterectomy is a daunting prospect for many men, and there are several concerns that men whose partners are facing a hyst typically have.

For some men, it's the helplessness in the face of a partner having such a severe health problem that she requires major surgery.  In American and much of other Western society, men are taught to be problem solvers, such that problems they cannot provide a solution to, situations where their encouragement and support are all they can bring to us, are very highly frustrating, and that frustration may be expressed as either unfocused anger or withdrawal of contact.

As women, we need to be aware that this response is normal and does not necessarily mean rejection of us as a partner. It means that where we can redirect the men in our lives as to how, specifically, they can help us with preparation and recovery, we may find they are more gracefully able to deal with their worries than if we silently wait for them to make a gesture of that help. And for men, it means that they need to reach for comfort with the idea that this isn't a problem they can solve, but a situation in which their support can ease that problem and truly provide what their women are needing.

 For other men, there is a concern over what a marriage may most mean to them: a ready, continuous supply of sex. Whether the relationship is a partnership or a religious one founded on the man owning the rights to the woman's body, many men are ill-equipped to deal with the notion that their spouses will be unavailable sexually to them for a period that the spouse, not they, will determine. For those whose religion only permits of procreative sex, there's that whole issue of what becomes of it when procreation is surgically eliminated. And when they tap into that delightful pool of Old Wives Tales that surround hysts and menopause, they can easily convince themselves that a hyst means the end of their (marital) sex life.

So there are some valid concerns here. Let's look at what is really involved.

Pre-op decisions: we'll just take out those ovaries so you won't have to worry about cancer

If you are planning your hysterectomy, or even just investigating what it would mean for you, and your doctor offers you this "recommendation," you may want to ask him to step back and explain himself in a lot more detail.

It used to be the practice that when women were facing a hyst, a surgeon would suggest that because her ovaries "aren't needed" any more, she should have them removed now so as to remove the risk of later getting ovarian cancer. In many cases, this would include the suggestion that "most" women who retain ovaries only end up needing another surgery later to remove them anyway.

Today we know that this kind of a sales pitch is not only medically inaccurate but is in fact a strategy that holds greater odds of shortening a woman's life than the alternative. And, slowly, doctors who keep up with the news in this field are revising their recommendations to a more accurate representation of the various risks.

Much of this turnaround can be credited to this study, published in the May, 2009 issue of the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology: "Ovarian Conservation at the Time of Hysterectomy and Long-Term Health Outcomes in the Nurses’ Health Study." For something that may be a little less intimidating to read, you might try this article at webmd: "Hysterectomy: Spare Ovaries, Boost Health?." Yet another good resource is the anonymous but probably related to the study website OvaryResearch, which focuses on the study and discussion it's stimulated as well as an earlier version of it that appeared in 2005.

Okay, enough with the citations: what's this about?

The study, which involved a very large pool of women (that's good, because it means the results are more likely to really reflect us all), found that rather than lowering deaths from cancer, prophylactic oophorectomy (that's the fancy way of saying taking out ovaries for the sake of prevention) in fact had a higher risk of death from all causes but mostly heart disease and lung cancer. That's right: removing our healthy ovaries at any age does not lengthen our lives or improve our health.

Further, although breast and ovarian cancer rates were lower in women who had their ovaries removed, the risk of death from all types of cancer was higher in these women. So, yes, the very thing we feared and chose this option in hopes of preventing is actually more likely to happen to us than if we'd left well enough alone.

And the rates of death are highest for women who never supplemented their hormones after the surgery. All those women who valiently toughed out menopausal symptoms because they thought it was the right and "natural" thing to do were in fact working with their doctors to shorten their own lives.

Tragic, right? And we're talking a big tragedy here: about 300,000 women a year choose to have this surgery under the impression that it will help them live longer, healthier lives. According to the main study author, that's "50% of women who have a hysterectomy between ages 40-44...and 78% of women between ages 45-64," even though it's well demonstrated that post-menopausal ovaries continue to contribute to our hormonal support, a support that's lost when we take those ovaries out.

But wait! What about women at real risk for cancer?

Yes, of course there are women for whom the risks boil down to high expectation of death by breast or ovarian cancer vs later death by these risks of lost hormones. That's a special situation and no one is suggesting that preventative removal of ovaries might not be the right choice for them.

But it needs to be an informed choice. That means not just making the assumption that because there's "a lot of cancer" in one's family that we are, personally, at risk for these specific cancers. It requires genetic testing and evaluation by an oncological specialist, not an assurance of a gyn surgeon who heard the word "cancer" and got spooked into a slash-and-burn mentality.

Can't I just take something to make up for that risk?

For many of us, the idea of cancer is so terrifying that it shorts out our brains. Especially if we're younger women and few of our peers have died of things we attribute to aging, we may not feel that the risk of heart attack or stroke is all that vivid or personal.

One of the objections to the recommendations of this study, that more women keep healthy ovaries, is that this risk can be treated medically with statins, drugs that lower cholesterol and lipids that are believed to be a major cause of heart disease, and bisphosphonates, drugs that preserve bone density. As the study author replies, however, these drugs have notorious dropout rates, just as HRTs do. Taking out a healthy body part and replacing it with drugs that must be taken for the rest of our lives and may have significant side effects of their own: if we look at it that way, how much sense does that make?

And then there are the women who want to do it "all naturally." What do they do? Exercise and healthy eating are important lifestyle strategies for minimizing cardiovascular and osteoporosis risks, but alone they probably aren't enough for most women, not to mention that they too are something that sounds better in concept than they are actually adhered to for every remaining day of our lives. Menopausal nutraceuticals, the raw plant estrogenic compounds that are sold to reduce hot flashes in natural menopause, are relatively ineffective in coping with the level of symptoms seen with the larger drop in hormone levels due to ovarian removal. And they entirely fail to address many of the more serious effects of hormone deficiency...such as the ones that lead to the risks cited in the study. In fact, this is not a natural situation and there is no natural solution that makes up for it.

But my ovaries are diseased: what should I do?

No one is suggesting that women should not treat existing ovarian disease with surgery. But this study does suggest that we should balance our treatment options against the risks, and those risks are more sizable than our previous understanding led us to believe.

Some ovarian disorders don't require removing the whole ovary to treat, and these are poorly paid back by the increased risks.

But some disorders do require removal for definitive treatment. Sometimes, other diseases are best treated by removing our ovaries. In these cases, however, we still need to understand the costs of that treatment and we need to understand how to mitigate those costs, whether that's drugs or HRT or simply accepting that we have chosen that direction for our lives rather than the one that would have resulted from our ovarian disease.

We need to know that not having ovaries means more than not having ovarian disease.

You have to make up your own mind

This is a complex issue. Many things that can go wrong with our ovaries still don't require that we give up our ovaries. Nothing going wrong with our ovaries really doesn't seem to require their loss. The things at the other side of that equation, heart and lung disease chief among them, kill many, many more women every year.

Just as we don't necessarily believe the car salesman that the extras he's recommending will do anything more than provide him with higher profits, so we shouldn't necessarily believe the person we'll be paying to do our surgery that the extras he's recommending are more valuable to us than him. This is where second opinions are so important, getting an opinion from a doctor who doesn't profit from that advice. And where we're worried about cancer risks, we should talk with an oncologist to make sure we're evaluating our own risk accurately and not just spooked by the word itself.

This study did nothing to simplify our decision with respect to a hyst except for one thing: we simply shouldn't accept "as long as you're having a hyst" as a good reason to give up our ovaries. Because when you hear that phrase, you now know enough to hear the unspoken rest of it: "as long as you're having a hyst, why not let me give you a higher chance of an early death by heart disease or cancer?" And we simply don't need that.

[Note: This essay was revised in June 2009 to include the results of the May 2009 study.]

Will I be in menopause?

Women making plans for a hysterectomy often ask whether having a hyst will mean that they will go through menopause and what that will mean for them if they do. I can tell you right away that if you have your ovaries removed, you will, irrespective of your age, be in menopause when you wake up from anesthesia. If you retain your ovaries, you stand a good chance of postponing menopause for some undefined time, but as we've previously looked at here, there's no guarantee just how long that time will be.

This might be a good place to define just what menopause really is. Menopause is nothing more than your levels of ovarian hormones dropping below that level that supports fertility. When menopause happens naturally (that is, without surgical intervention), our ovaries don't just throw a switch and never produce another hormone again. Instead, a long slow decline begins a decade or more before actual menopause and continues for many years, if not decades after that. Menopause is simply one point on that long slope of hormone output, even if it happens to be one we can clearly see because we stop having periods. Because a woman in natural menopause continues to produce lower levels of hormones that continue to support her remaining, non-fertile hormone needs, she may not have very many or very disruptive symptoms.

But in surgical menopause, when our ovaries are removed, we go from ovarian function (either fertile or naturally menopaused, depending where we are preoperatively) to no ovarian output at all. That doesn't mean we have no hormones at all, however. In menopause, our belly fat contains special cells that can produce a weak estrogen called estrone. Our adrenal glands can also make estrogen from other hormone precursors, although the amount we can produce that way is somewhat dependent upon what other competing tasks the adrenal glands are facing at any particular moment. Whether or not that is enough remaining capacity to meet our non-fertile hormone needs or not, it is definitely enough of a drop that we should be considered menopausal.

Does menopause mean I'm just going to become old and wrinkled and sexless overnight?

No. That depends upon your genetic makeup (how women in your family age at menopause might be a helpful clue for what you can expect) and how well your hormone needs are met in menopause. No matter how you get there, menopause is a major life change—the biggest one we experience after puberty. This signals a number of things to your body and will affect a variety of metabolic systems. You most likely will lose collagen and find that your skin gradually becomes dryer, more delicate and more prone to showing wrinkles, although how rapidly this develops may be somewhat mitigated by genetics and meeting hormone needs. It's typical that our body shape changes as we take over estrogen production with belly fat: we may thicken in the middle and find that metabolic down-setting causes us to gain weight that it is difficult to lose without dietary modification and exercise. And there are other changes that may slowly develop. While we're not plunged into elderly bodies overnight, the fertile part of our lives is over and this will signal changes.

Do I really have to take HRT for menopause? If it only lasts a few months, can't I just put up with the hot flashes and wait it out? I really hate to take drugs if I don't have to.

First of all, let's dispose of that "only a few months" myth. Somehow, doctors have convinced themselves that it only takes a few months to adjust to menopausal hormone levels and thus recommendations for the use of hrts are for just long enough to make this transition. But this is a gross oversimplification for many women, and especially so for those without ovaries. In fact, there are two aspects of menopause that determine how it affects us and how long those effects last.

In terms of overall experience of menopause, the suddenness of the transition definitely affects the number and severity of symptoms we experience. Our bodies don't really approve of hormonal fluctuations, and the sharper the fluctuation, the more dramatically our bodies will express their disapproval with symptoms. An especially rapid change prevents us from making the many small, slow accommodations to life with low estrogen levels and estrogen provided by non-ovarian means. Generally speaking, a surgical menopause is a much greater challenge to the stability our bodies want and will cause more symptoms from the transition.

The other aspect of symptoms has to do with how well our remaining hormone needs are being met. Remaining needs? Yes, our ovarian hormones do many things besides prepare our uterus to receive a fertilized egg. In fact, they are used throughout our bodies in nearly every system. I can't go into all of these details here, but you can read much more about hormones and what they do at the Survivor's Guide to Surgical Menopause. I would encourage any woman facing surgical menopause to read through this material, as this is an important topic for our ongoing health and one we typically know very little about.

The thing about hormone needs is that while they may decrease with age, they do not disappear altogether. So if you are failing to meet your hormone needs, then you can expect symptoms to persist. You don't "get over" the need for basic bodily processes, and if you never provide the support your body needs to carry them out, you'll continue to experience the symptoms of those systems malfunctioning.

But it's also very important not to confuse HRT with drugs. It's easy to do, since they both require a doctor's prescription to obtain and they both are manufactured by pharmaceutical companies. But a drug does something to interfere with a normal body process, with the intent thereby of "fixing" something that is being a problem for us. In the case of hormones, however, we're not interfering with a normal process; we're providing the raw materials to support normal function in the face of a surgically-induced shortage. Taking supplemental ovarian hormones is more akin to someone who is hypothyroid taking thyroid hormone supplements or someone who is diabetic taking insulin (another hormone). HRTs are just different forms of either our exact hormones or a near-match chemical that has similar actions in the body.

Whether or not you need to take hormones (and I include in this category prescription, non-prescription and food sources: if it can act to meet hormone needs in the body, it is an HRT) is pretty much up to you and what you define as the level of health and comfort you wish to experience during menopause. If taking hormones is more distasteful to you than hot flashes and other symptoms, there's really no reason you have to take them. There can be some pretty serious risks to health on either side of the take-or-not HRT question, so you should research hormone actions, consider them in the light of your own personal health risk profile, and decide for yourself how you want to deal with hormone needs. There are drugs that can alleviate some of the symptoms of hormone deficit and there are other health practices that can help limit some of the risks. It's all up to you how you choose to deal with these needs.

And of course we've all heard of the happy, healthy elder who never took hormones and was just fine. I'm really delighted for her, but I have to point out that this cannot be achieved by force of will. We have little control over how well our body is genetically programmed to cope with supplying hormone needs. If yours isn't up to the task, you're not a failure and I would hope you don't punish yourself with guilt. Hormone needs, I repeat, represent basic physical processes, not optional comfort measures. We are not wimps when we choose health and wellbeing in our menopausal years.

I've heard that I should get my hormone levels checked before surgery, so that I can just take enough HRT afterwards to get back to where I know I was feeling good.

Sure, you can spend a few hundred dollars to be tested. But unfortunately, premenopausal hormone levels fluctuate constantly, perimenopausal hormone levels fluctuate wildly, and even postmenopausal hormone levels are only a momentary snapshot. There's no way to know to what extent any hormone level test corresponds to how you feel because of that moment-to-moment variability. Furthermore, if you were fertile, your needs once you are no longer supporting fertility will not be the same. With no uterine cycling to support, that level of hormones will be a gross excess postop.

The other flaw with that premise is that you can look at a test and know how much to put back into the system in HRT. Alas, but it's not that simple. There are so many intersecting influences here that there is just no feasible correlation between levels and supplementation needs. I'm not going into the details here since the Survivor's Guide does it much more thoroughly. What I want to leave you with is the simple statement that it just doesn't work that way. If you want more about the why of it, you'll need to follow the discussions over there.

If it's being menopausal that makes me look old and ugly, can't I just take as many hormones as I used to have so that I stay young looking?

Nope, not a good idea. One of the things we learn in menopause with HRT is that while enough is wonderful, more than enough is hellish. Hormonal excess raises our risks of negative effects and causes some quite unpleasant, if not dangerous, symptoms. And regardless of the risks, HRT just can't turn back time. Your body recognizes ovarian loss or natural menopause as a life transition and behaves accordingly. While HRTs have come a long way since they were first introduced, they remain a relatively crude tool. You can't entirely fool your body with them and they won't reset the clock. Menopause awaits all women; the only part we get to pick is how we respond to the needs it creates.

Postop: Sleep

Most of us get the message that rest is pretty important to our recovery. It can be frustrating, then, to find that sleep is ridiculously elusive in that first postop month or so.

There are a lot of factors that are working to keep us from falling and staying asleep. It takes weeks to get all of the drugs from surgery out of our systems. It's common during the time we're clearing the remains of anesthesia to have vivid dreams, nightmares and disturbed sleep from these drugs' effects on our brains. There's nothing to do about this, really, other than wait out our own body's ability to get rid of the last lingering traces.

Stress is an important part of this too. Stress disorders many of our daily hormone cycles and can have destabilizing effects on our brain chemistry. Normally we rely on our circadian rhythms to guide us through our sleep and wake periods, and when they are upset, so is sleep. As we get further from surgery and relax into our healing, chemicals in our brains normalize and our bodies return to a more normal daily cycle. Unfortunately, fretting about sleep only adds to our stress and prolongs the process of readjustment.

Speaking of hormones, our ovarian hormones play a significant role in sleep. Not only do daily cycles of estrogen affect the other daily ups and downs of the hormones that guide our sleep, but estrogen itself can act on our brains to make sleep difficult. Too little estrogen often makes it hard to stay asleep, and a woman with low levels may find herself waking frequently during the night. Too much estrogen, on the other hand, tends to have a stimulating effect somewhat like caffeine, and we feel the same thing as if we'd had a double-extra just before bedtime: spinning wheels may make it hard to fall asleep, even though once we get there, we tend to stay asleep most of the night.

And don't neglect the hormone link if you kept your ovaries. They may be undergoing a period of diminished output due to the local trauma of surgery, effectively putting you into a temporary state of menopause. Whether or not they recover, the disruptions can make sleep difficult to maintain.

Then too, the very nature of our recovery also influences our sleep patterns. In the hospital, we are (of good necessity) awakened frequently and spend a lot of time in a drowsing state. By the time we get home, we're more active but still may spend a lot of the first week more in bed than out of it. This trains our bodies away from a day/night cycle of long awake periods and long sleep periods. Since we are so inactive, we have less of a need for sleep. By fulfilling our sleep needs in short incremental naps through the day, we may arrive at a nominal bedtime only to find that we really don't need to sleep. This training effect can take weeks to undue.

It's hard to get comfortable when you've just had abdominal surgery. Whether or not you have an abdominal incision, you may have a lot of difficulty getting comfortably situated in bed. It's also hard to move around and reposition yourself, so that rolling over to a new position, something that would normally cause no waking at all, now brings you to full consciousness as you laboriously untangle from pillows and covers to slowly seek another position. If you've been doing a good job drinking enough during the day and/or you're still experiencing bladder crankiness, you'll probably be waking up more to go to the bathroom, too. And because it's more of an effort to get up and get to the bathroom and then settled back down again, that's going to wake you more thoroughly than it would have pre-op and so it'll take longer to get back to sleep.

That's a lot of things working against good, lasting sleep at night. And while it's all fine to know what the cause of this might be, more pressing at 2 am in a bout of the floppy-wakefuls is what to do about it.

1. Pain meds: Narcotic pain meds may seem like a good thing to take at bedtime to force us to relax and sleep. But they generally last only 4-6 hours, leaving you wakeful and sore before the time when you may think you're ready to get up for another day. A more durable approach to pain is the oral anti-imflammatory that has a 12-hour life, like naprosyn. Taking that before bedtime gives you plenty of medication life to let you rest comfortably through till the morning, without the wakeful effects of having it wear off. Be sure to check with your doctor, though, if you're unsure whether you can or should be using a drug from the NSAID family. After the first few postop days, using the narcotics when you're about to be especially active (and increase your discomfort) makes more sense than using them when you are in bed.
2. Napping: It's important to get enough rest, yes, but that doesn't need to mean napping every hour through the day. During the first few weeks postop, we should be working towards more and more time awake during the day. Pacing our activities so that we spend some time exercising and then some time in sedentary, undemanding activity before getting up again is a good healing pattern. Getting exercise and then sleeping and then getting up for another hour is training our bodies away from a sleep-at-night pattern.
3. Exercise: We do need to engage in enough activity throughout the day to need to sleep at night. Every day we need to walk a little further or on a little steeper terrain or make another cautious trip up and down stairs or something that challenges our bodies to grow stronger and helps cut down the incidence of postop constipation and complications. Every activity needs rest and no activity should leave you still tired after resting, but it's important to keep challenging yourself. It's better to repeatedly engage in small activities than go for one gut-burning grind a day, too. By making ourselves healthily tired, we're readier for sleep at night. If there's no reason to sleep, we won't.
4. Preparation: We can clue our bodies when we are expecting sleep and ease the process of falling asleep. Before we had surgery, we most likely did this by our normal evening routines. Surgery disrupts this, so we need to consciously re-establish sleep-promoting practices. Changing into sleepwear (wear sweats or a caftan or something else comfy for lounging during the daytime), going through teeth and skin care routines, reading in bed--these are some of the things we often do normally that we let slide postop. We can also signal our bodies to relax by having a warm drink of something soothing. Sleepy tea blends (no caffeine!) or warm milk or products like ovaltine all contain mildly sedating agents that can help us through those first few moments of falling asleep. Positive imaging and relaxation routines can make sure we're not fighting ourselves, letting our worry over falling asleep work against us by keeping us alert.
5. Patience: It's also important not to try to force ourselves to sleep just because the clock says it's time. When we're not sleepy, lying in bed fretting only makes us more wakeful. When we wake up during the night, tossing and fuming prolongs the time it takes to return to sleep. If you're not so sleepy your eyes would prefer to be closed, you may not need to be asleep. Give yourself an honest time, and then get up or do something else. Maybe you just need to turn on the light and read; maybe you need to get up and go for a pee and a drink; maybe you should get up and watch a movie from a nice recliner where it won't matter if you finally doze off. Even if all you do is get up, read half a chapter and then go to bed to fall asleep, you won't feel as though you've had nearly the struggle for sleep as if you'd instead flopped around in bed fussing for that amount of time. The idea is to set yourself up to be relaxed about sleeping so you quit being your own worst enemy.
6. Sleeping pills?: Forcing yourself to sleep because you think you should when your body isn't wanting to is not really helping to re-establish your own innate sleep patterns. If our sleep is so disordered that we truly are going days and days without any sleep (not just keeping ourself from needing to sleep by cat-napping five minutes at a time all through the day), then there is something more going on that we need to talk with our doctor about. It's always better to deal with the underlying problem than to put a drug bandaid on top. If your doctor finds that there is no physical problem or hormonal imbalance interfering with your sleep and feels you need medication to break your present, dysfunctional sleep cycle, then short term use of drugs may be warranted. But do your health a favor: don't just make reaching for a bigger hammer to knock yourself out your first response to the problem.

These all sound like pretty simplistic things, but none of them really offers a "quick fix." I know very well that we often prefer the easy solution of a prescription to solve anything we perceive as a problem. But the sources of postop insomnia aren't going to go away quickly or be cured by one simple thing. We need to give ourselves time to regain our normal patterns and to clear the effects of surgery from our systems. Postop insomnia is generally something that requires healing, not treatment.

It's easy to believe that we need to heal our surgical incisions because of the discomfort they cause us. It's harder to see the need to heal other systems in our bodies when we can't see those "cuts" in our normal function. But postop insomnia is another signal that our bodies haven't gotten over surgery yet and need our active support. Part of a good recovery is rebuilding ourselves to take care of all our needs.

Postop: Should I call my doctor?

I see posting after posting in the online hyst forums describing all sorts of situations and asking this question. And the only possible answer is, invariably, yes.

Yes, if anything at all happens that worries you or makes you wonder whether or how your postop instructions apply, you should call your doctor.

Yes, you should call your doctor if it happens at 10 am on a weekday and yes, you should call your doctor if it happens at 1 am on Sunday. Every surgeon has a mechanism for taking calls and a relief on-call doctor who will be available if he is off. You may have to leave a message with an answering service and wait for a callback, but you can and should take your questions to a doctor. No one on a forum, no matter how well-educated or well-intentioned, has the information at hand to answer your questions safely and applicably. In fact, if your doctor or his on-call is in doubt because of the limitations of discussing things on the phone, he may ask you to come to the office or be seen in the Emergency Room just so that you can be evaluated more fully. Doctors understand the limitations of phone consultations; women on forums, however well-motivated they may be, tend not to.

"But I hate to disturb my doctor with what might be a silly question..." is an all-too-common response. Nonsense. You are paying the doctor for a service, and part of that service is postoperative supervision. Whether you have developed a complication requiring further treatment or whether your doctor failed to adequately instruct you on what to expect, the doctor is a contractor being paid for a specific service and you are entirely entitled to that full service for those big bucks.

There are things you can do to help make your call as effective as possible. First of all, before you even pick up the phone, jot down some notes. Write out as explicitly as possible what your worries or questions are. Include such background information as when you had your surgery, what surgery it was, what medications and hrt you are on (include when you last took them), what your temperature is or other pertinent information about your physical condition. Your doctor may take your call from a location where he doesn't have your chart or his notes available, and you don't want to rely upon his (crowded) memory for important details.

Doctors respond better to clear, objective information, not subjective responses. Saying in tears that "I feel totally horrible and I'm really worried!!!!" does not convey nearly as much helpful information to the doctor as "I am running a fever of 101, my head has been pounding for 6 hours despite taking [pain medication type and dose and time of last dose], and my incision looks red, puffy and is draining green pus that made a circle 1" in diameter on a dressing in the past 6 hours." The first comment will likely get a soothing response or a suggestion that you need an antidepressant; the second may see you with an office visit and an antibiotic prescription—very different results indeed.

So if you are describing your incision, you need to be prepared to report the following:

• location
• how long this has been going on/when you first noticed it
• color: red, pale, normal skin tone?
• temperature of the area: hot? same as surrounding tissues?
• presence or absence of local swelling, feeling of area: hard? soft? hard lump with distinct edges? dimensions of lump in inches/cm?
• sensation of area: hurts all the time? hurts when touched gently/pushed on? sharp pain or ache? burning pain or stabbing pain?
• smell: no particular odor? medicinal? foul or rotting meat odor?
• drainage description: clear pinkish-yellowish? bright red blood? old clotted blood? pus? green? yellow?
• drainage amount: size of stain on dressing in [whatever] amount of time, how many times you've changed what type of pad or dressing in past [whatever] amount of time?
• your temperature taken just before calling, as well as when you last took it and what it was then

If you think you are having hormonal problems, you need to be prepared to report the following:

• what you are taking for hrt
• when you take it and when you last took it
• what specific symptoms you are having that you attribute to your hormones: hot flashes? mood swings? rash? swelling? headache? nausea?
• for each symptom, further list: when it began, how many times you've had it, how long it lasts (for example: hot flashes started today, I have had 6 lasting 10-30 seconds each and each time more intense/causing heavier sweat or I have burst into tears inappropriately 4 times today and yelled at my kids when they really didn't deserve it twice)

By having this sort of information ready, you're giving your doctor the information he needs to identify and constructively deal with your problem, not your reaction to your problem. And that will make for a whole lot more satisfaction all around. And, hey, if it turns out to be something perfectly normal, then you have the reassurance and your doctor's learned a lesson about preparing you for what to expect that will benefit the next woman he treats. Everyone wins!

Pre-op decisions: Keep my cervix or not?

When considering a hysterectomy, there are several options that may be up to you when the decision is made just which parts of what are to be removed. Women who are having a vaginal hysterectomy don't get this choice: their cervix has to be removed in order to obtain access to the uterus through the vagina. But for women having an abdominal procedure, it is sometimes possible to leave the cervix, the muscular join between the uterus and vagina. If the cervix is not retained, then the top of the vagina is closed with a "cuff" or a special turned-over seam very like the French seaming on the inside of most jeans legs. Let's look at some of the concerns with the cervix decision.

Cervical cancer

There are several considerations related to cancer. If you have or are at high risk for cervical cancer, your surgeon will most likely advise that you have it removed. Removal of your cervix will greatly lower your risk of this particular cancer, although you will continue to need pap smears to monitor vaginal health. Sometimes women question whether they should have it removed just to eliminate the chance of cancer. Cervical cancer has some highly specific risk factors and otherwise fairly low risks for the rest of the population, so you need to do some research on cervical cancer to see if you feel you fall into that population. If you do not, it may not be anything to worry about. [update to this topic]

Mechanical concerns

Because the cervix is an integral part of the muscular support of the upper vagina and uterus, there used to be considerable feeling that removing the cervix made shifting that support more complicated and more prone to failure. This would, in turn, lead to a need for further (future) surgery to tack those organs back up. Most current surgeons use newer operative techniques for supporting these organs, and so this is less of a concern today than it was a decade ago. If you are talking with women about their experiences with this, be sure you know when they're talking about and how skilled/current their surgeon was. Assuming that you have normal tissue health generally, it is unlikely to be a problem for you if your surgeon is up to date and skilled.

Mini-periods

If you keep your cervix, you will probably continue to experience small "mini-periods" or episodes of light spotting. This is because there will be a little retained uterine tissue along the edges that may continue to cycle if you keep your ovaries or if your HRT fluctuates. It's just not possible to separate cervix from uterus with total accuracy—they are each a continuation of the other, in terms of tissue differentiation—and so while your surgeon will do his best, the division may not be 100% accurate. Some women find these mini-periods deeply troubling; others aren't the slightest bit bothered by them. Knowing that this may happen will go a long way towards letting you take them in stride.

Sex

And then there's sex. Some women feel that cervical stimulation is an important part of their sexual response and orgasm. For those women, loss of the cervix may alter the nature of their orgasmic sensations, although not necessarily their ability to experience them. Many women are also concerned that removal of their uterus will remove that sense of muscular contraction that accompanies orgasm. That is not the case: while your uterus is removed, other abdominal muscles still respond in that way and, again, it may be a little different, but it is not necessarily diminished or less satisfying. So for any woman, the question may come down to her own appraisal of how important her cervix is to her sexual satisfaction. For those who find cervical stimulation uncomfortable rather than pleasurable, there's certainly no loss at all in having it removed.

Another concern in removing your cervix is vaginal length. The top of the vagina, you'll recall from a couple paragraphs above, is stitched into a cervix-like gathered knot called a "cuff." This actually consumes very little tissue. A certain number of women when they first get the okay to resume intercourse, however, find that they feel as though they are very very short now. This is a function of healing, not a too-short vagina. It takes a long time—months to a year—for vaginal tissue to regain its proper elasticity around the incisions. Normal vaginal tissue is very elastic, and the area around the incision is going to be stiff and unyielding for some time. This gives you much more of a sensation of an abrupt "end" than you normally experience. This will pass with time, but doctors rarely warn women of this and it causes more needless misery than nearly anything else to do with a hyst. Unless you are having major reconstructive repairs of rectoceles or cystoceles (tears in the vaginal wall that let bladder or rectum protrude in), this is only going to be a temporary healing phase. If vaginal length is for some reason a particular concern for you, discuss this aspect of your surgery with your doctor in your pre-op appointments and plan together how best to deal with it.

Pap smears

And, finally, there's the need for pap smears. If you keep your cervix, you will continue to need regular pap smears on whatever schedule you've always used. But, if you have your cervix removed, you will still need regular pap smears, albeit possibly on a less frequent schedule. As with the mini-period, there's no clear line between cervix and vagina and there is a risk of retaining some cervical cells in with the new vaginal cuff. That means a small risk remains of developing cervical cancer in those cells. There is also, some doctors feel, enough of a chance of developing vaginal cancer that they advocate exams and testing to check for that as well. You might want to ask your doctor about your post-op testing needs in each scenario and how he evaluates your risk level as part of making your decision.

Those are the main concerns with keeping or having your cervix removed. We'll each weight them differently, so it's definitely worth thinking through how each factor affects your individual body rather than just relying on other women's opinions of how they were affected by cervical removal or not. This is one of the areas where the outcomes of our surgery are partially under our control, so it's worth some deep consideration and discussion with your surgeon or regular gynecologist.

And just in case you like visual aids or aren't entirely certain what we're talking about, here's a photo of a cervix, speculum view, and a drawing of a uterus, etc showing the cervix.