Pre-op decisions: we'll just take out those ovaries so you won't have to worry about cancer

If you are planning your hysterectomy, or even just investigating what it would mean for you, and your doctor offers you this "recommendation," you may want to ask him to step back and explain himself in a lot more detail.

It used to be the practice that when women were facing a hyst, a surgeon would suggest that because her ovaries "aren't needed" any more, she should have them removed now so as to remove the risk of later getting ovarian cancer. In many cases, this would include the suggestion that "most" women who retain ovaries only end up needing another surgery later to remove them anyway.

Today we know that this kind of a sales pitch is not only medically inaccurate but is in fact a strategy that holds greater odds of shortening a woman's life than the alternative. And, slowly, doctors who keep up with the news in this field are revising their recommendations to a more accurate representation of the various risks.

Much of this turnaround can be credited to this study, published in the May, 2009 issue of the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology: "Ovarian Conservation at the Time of Hysterectomy and Long-Term Health Outcomes in the Nurses’ Health Study." For something that may be a little less intimidating to read, you might try this article at webmd: "Hysterectomy: Spare Ovaries, Boost Health?." Yet another good resource is the anonymous but probably related to the study website OvaryResearch, which focuses on the study and discussion it's stimulated as well as an earlier version of it that appeared in 2005.

Okay, enough with the citations: what's this about?

The study, which involved a very large pool of women (that's good, because it means the results are more likely to really reflect us all), found that rather than lowering deaths from cancer, prophylactic oophorectomy (that's the fancy way of saying taking out ovaries for the sake of prevention) in fact had a higher risk of death from all causes but mostly heart disease and lung cancer. That's right: removing our healthy ovaries at any age does not lengthen our lives or improve our health.

Further, although breast and ovarian cancer rates were lower in women who had their ovaries removed, the risk of death from all types of cancer was higher in these women. So, yes, the very thing we feared and chose this option in hopes of preventing is actually more likely to happen to us than if we'd left well enough alone.

And the rates of death are highest for women who never supplemented their hormones after the surgery. All those women who valiently toughed out menopausal symptoms because they thought it was the right and "natural" thing to do were in fact working with their doctors to shorten their own lives.

Tragic, right? And we're talking a big tragedy here: about 300,000 women a year choose to have this surgery under the impression that it will help them live longer, healthier lives. According to the main study author, that's "50% of women who have a hysterectomy between ages 40-44...and 78% of women between ages 45-64," even though it's well demonstrated that post-menopausal ovaries continue to contribute to our hormonal support, a support that's lost when we take those ovaries out.

But wait! What about women at real risk for cancer?

Yes, of course there are women for whom the risks boil down to high expectation of death by breast or ovarian cancer vs later death by these risks of lost hormones. That's a special situation and no one is suggesting that preventative removal of ovaries might not be the right choice for them.

But it needs to be an informed choice. That means not just making the assumption that because there's "a lot of cancer" in one's family that we are, personally, at risk for these specific cancers. It requires genetic testing and evaluation by an oncological specialist, not an assurance of a gyn surgeon who heard the word "cancer" and got spooked into a slash-and-burn mentality.

Can't I just take something to make up for that risk?

For many of us, the idea of cancer is so terrifying that it shorts out our brains. Especially if we're younger women and few of our peers have died of things we attribute to aging, we may not feel that the risk of heart attack or stroke is all that vivid or personal.

One of the objections to the recommendations of this study, that more women keep healthy ovaries, is that this risk can be treated medically with statins, drugs that lower cholesterol and lipids that are believed to be a major cause of heart disease, and bisphosphonates, drugs that preserve bone density. As the study author replies, however, these drugs have notorious dropout rates, just as HRTs do. Taking out a healthy body part and replacing it with drugs that must be taken for the rest of our lives and may have significant side effects of their own: if we look at it that way, how much sense does that make?

And then there are the women who want to do it "all naturally." What do they do? Exercise and healthy eating are important lifestyle strategies for minimizing cardiovascular and osteoporosis risks, but alone they probably aren't enough for most women, not to mention that they too are something that sounds better in concept than they are actually adhered to for every remaining day of our lives. Menopausal nutraceuticals, the raw plant estrogenic compounds that are sold to reduce hot flashes in natural menopause, are relatively ineffective in coping with the level of symptoms seen with the larger drop in hormone levels due to ovarian removal. And they entirely fail to address many of the more serious effects of hormone deficiency...such as the ones that lead to the risks cited in the study. In fact, this is not a natural situation and there is no natural solution that makes up for it.

But my ovaries are diseased: what should I do?

No one is suggesting that women should not treat existing ovarian disease with surgery. But this study does suggest that we should balance our treatment options against the risks, and those risks are more sizable than our previous understanding led us to believe.

Some ovarian disorders don't require removing the whole ovary to treat, and these are poorly paid back by the increased risks.

But some disorders do require removal for definitive treatment. Sometimes, other diseases are best treated by removing our ovaries. In these cases, however, we still need to understand the costs of that treatment and we need to understand how to mitigate those costs, whether that's drugs or HRT or simply accepting that we have chosen that direction for our lives rather than the one that would have resulted from our ovarian disease.

We need to know that not having ovaries means more than not having ovarian disease.

You have to make up your own mind

This is a complex issue. Many things that can go wrong with our ovaries still don't require that we give up our ovaries. Nothing going wrong with our ovaries really doesn't seem to require their loss. The things at the other side of that equation, heart and lung disease chief among them, kill many, many more women every year.

Just as we don't necessarily believe the car salesman that the extras he's recommending will do anything more than provide him with higher profits, so we shouldn't necessarily believe the person we'll be paying to do our surgery that the extras he's recommending are more valuable to us than him. This is where second opinions are so important, getting an opinion from a doctor who doesn't profit from that advice. And where we're worried about cancer risks, we should talk with an oncologist to make sure we're evaluating our own risk accurately and not just spooked by the word itself.

This study did nothing to simplify our decision with respect to a hyst except for one thing: we simply shouldn't accept "as long as you're having a hyst" as a good reason to give up our ovaries. Because when you hear that phrase, you now know enough to hear the unspoken rest of it: "as long as you're having a hyst, why not let me give you a higher chance of an early death by heart disease or cancer?" And we simply don't need that.

[Note: This essay was revised in June 2009 to include the results of the May 2009 study.]

Pre-op: Fear

It's a truism of hysterectomies that the waiting for the surgery is the worst part of the whole thing. And like any truism, there's a great deal of validity in that statement. For most of us, a hyst may be our first experience of major surgery. For others, we know it's a gamble for better health and so it's reasonable to be edgy. Frankly, anyone who isn't worried at the prospect of a hyst is more worrisome to me.

But for other women, the fear is deeper and both more specific and more disabling. I read comments like "I'm terrified of anesthesia. I'm sure I'll never wake up." Or "I'm really having second thoughts because I don't want to be turned into a menopausal demon." I've read about women who have jumped up off of the cart headed to the OR and turned around and gone home. I've read about women who have canceled and rescheduled their surgeries so many times they are finally "fired" by their surgeon. For some women, fear is immobilizing.

But a lot of the time, there are things we can do to deal with this level of fear...and need to. When we face surgery with the strong conviction that we are going to die or when we are terrorized by the image of a hot flash as the fast track to doom, we're setting ourselves up with stress and worry to just make the entire situation worse. It's been well proven that lowering stress contributes significantly to our health during surgery and our recovery.

Instead, we can take back control of a terrifying part of surgery. Whatever it is, we can't eliminate the uncertainty, but we can really whack away at the terror. And we need to.

Is this surgery the right thing for me?

Take for instance ambivalence about the surgery itself. It's normal to have some doubts, but our overwhelming sense before we consent to surgery needs to be that this is the last best hope for health for us after having exhausted all lesser approaches. We have to be sure that this is the right thing for us to do. That doesn't mean that our surgeon needs to think this or our relatives need to think this. We have to believe it strongly enough to embrace the surgery with hope, not helpless doom. Until we're there, we're not ready. If you feel as though this decision is being urged on you and you ought to go along with it, you're not ready. If you don't feel you've explored all the options, you're not ready.

How do you get more ready? See more doctors. There's a good reason why your insurance company willingly pays for second or even third pre-op opinions, and it works to your benefit. You may have to see several doctors and listen to several explanations before you hear one that clicks and suddenly makes things fall into focus. That doesn't mean you can't use your first doctor as your surgeon--it just means you needed to do more research. Different doctors bring different interpretations and different communication skills. It's only prudent when looking at an irreversible surgery that we seek a broad range of opinions. It makes it much more possible to develop that necessary sense that what we choose—and that we are choosing—when we have explored our options more thoroughly.

Anesthesia fears

It's common to have a deep fear of losing control when faced with the idea of anesthesia. That's reasonable and protective, so long as it's not disabling. But if you have a deep-seated belief that it's not going to work for you, then don't go there. Talk with your doctor and anesthesiologist about other options, like spinal anesthesia. With that method, you are numb and indifferent but not totally unconscious. Maybe this would let you feel less cut off from your life, make the whole experience more survivable. It's a viable option if it reduces your fears.

Fears about after the surgery

What comes after a hyst is such an unknown for most of us. I'm doing what I can by posting on this website to make the experience a little clearer, give women a few more practical details of what they may expect. I've posted before about pain, and how you can help control your fears about it by making plans beforehand.

But that same technique applies to other aspects of healing. If you are having your ovaries removed and sudden menopause is your fear, don't let your doctor brush off your worries with the classic "you'll just take this little pill and everything will be fine." You've heard stories from your relatives and co-workers; you have been reading; maybe you've already looked at my recommended hormone/hrt resource, the Survivor's Guide to Surgical Menopause and their mailing list--you're not sure it's going to be that simple. Well then, don't let your doctor brush you off. Ask for details of his plan: when will you begin hrt, what if you experience symptoms before then, how will you know if it's not working, when will you change things if there is a problem, what will you change to? Or, even better, let your doctor know what you want for hrt and when you want to start it and how you want it to work for you.

Work together with your doctor(s) on a plan that covers all your worries and lays plans out for any contingency you are bothered about. Maybe you'll need those plans and maybe you won't. But pre-op fears are eased when we regain a sense that even if we don't know exactly what will happen, we're prepared to deal with it. And for that reason alone, it's worth the time and effort because we'll have a happier, healthier surgical experience when we're not facing featureless doom. It's okay to be nervous, but if you're seriously disabled by fears, you're not ready until you've laid them aside.

Will I be in menopause?

Women making plans for a hysterectomy often ask whether having a hyst will mean that they will go through menopause and what that will mean for them if they do. I can tell you right away that if you have your ovaries removed, you will, irrespective of your age, be in menopause when you wake up from anesthesia. If you retain your ovaries, you stand a good chance of postponing menopause for some undefined time, but as we've previously looked at here, there's no guarantee just how long that time will be.

This might be a good place to define just what menopause really is. Menopause is nothing more than your levels of ovarian hormones dropping below that level that supports fertility. When menopause happens naturally (that is, without surgical intervention), our ovaries don't just throw a switch and never produce another hormone again. Instead, a long slow decline begins a decade or more before actual menopause and continues for many years, if not decades after that. Menopause is simply one point on that long slope of hormone output, even if it happens to be one we can clearly see because we stop having periods. Because a woman in natural menopause continues to produce lower levels of hormones that continue to support her remaining, non-fertile hormone needs, she may not have very many or very disruptive symptoms.

But in surgical menopause, when our ovaries are removed, we go from ovarian function (either fertile or naturally menopaused, depending where we are preoperatively) to no ovarian output at all. That doesn't mean we have no hormones at all, however. In menopause, our belly fat contains special cells that can produce a weak estrogen called estrone. Our adrenal glands can also make estrogen from other hormone precursors, although the amount we can produce that way is somewhat dependent upon what other competing tasks the adrenal glands are facing at any particular moment. Whether or not that is enough remaining capacity to meet our non-fertile hormone needs or not, it is definitely enough of a drop that we should be considered menopausal.

Does menopause mean I'm just going to become old and wrinkled and sexless overnight?

No. That depends upon your genetic makeup (how women in your family age at menopause might be a helpful clue for what you can expect) and how well your hormone needs are met in menopause. No matter how you get there, menopause is a major life change—the biggest one we experience after puberty. This signals a number of things to your body and will affect a variety of metabolic systems. You most likely will lose collagen and find that your skin gradually becomes dryer, more delicate and more prone to showing wrinkles, although how rapidly this develops may be somewhat mitigated by genetics and meeting hormone needs. It's typical that our body shape changes as we take over estrogen production with belly fat: we may thicken in the middle and find that metabolic down-setting causes us to gain weight that it is difficult to lose without dietary modification and exercise. And there are other changes that may slowly develop. While we're not plunged into elderly bodies overnight, the fertile part of our lives is over and this will signal changes.

Do I really have to take HRT for menopause? If it only lasts a few months, can't I just put up with the hot flashes and wait it out? I really hate to take drugs if I don't have to.

First of all, let's dispose of that "only a few months" myth. Somehow, doctors have convinced themselves that it only takes a few months to adjust to menopausal hormone levels and thus recommendations for the use of hrts are for just long enough to make this transition. But this is a gross oversimplification for many women, and especially so for those without ovaries. In fact, there are two aspects of menopause that determine how it affects us and how long those effects last.

In terms of overall experience of menopause, the suddenness of the transition definitely affects the number and severity of symptoms we experience. Our bodies don't really approve of hormonal fluctuations, and the sharper the fluctuation, the more dramatically our bodies will express their disapproval with symptoms. An especially rapid change prevents us from making the many small, slow accommodations to life with low estrogen levels and estrogen provided by non-ovarian means. Generally speaking, a surgical menopause is a much greater challenge to the stability our bodies want and will cause more symptoms from the transition.

The other aspect of symptoms has to do with how well our remaining hormone needs are being met. Remaining needs? Yes, our ovarian hormones do many things besides prepare our uterus to receive a fertilized egg. In fact, they are used throughout our bodies in nearly every system. I can't go into all of these details here, but you can read much more about hormones and what they do at the Survivor's Guide to Surgical Menopause. I would encourage any woman facing surgical menopause to read through this material, as this is an important topic for our ongoing health and one we typically know very little about.

The thing about hormone needs is that while they may decrease with age, they do not disappear altogether. So if you are failing to meet your hormone needs, then you can expect symptoms to persist. You don't "get over" the need for basic bodily processes, and if you never provide the support your body needs to carry them out, you'll continue to experience the symptoms of those systems malfunctioning.

But it's also very important not to confuse HRT with drugs. It's easy to do, since they both require a doctor's prescription to obtain and they both are manufactured by pharmaceutical companies. But a drug does something to interfere with a normal body process, with the intent thereby of "fixing" something that is being a problem for us. In the case of hormones, however, we're not interfering with a normal process; we're providing the raw materials to support normal function in the face of a surgically-induced shortage. Taking supplemental ovarian hormones is more akin to someone who is hypothyroid taking thyroid hormone supplements or someone who is diabetic taking insulin (another hormone). HRTs are just different forms of either our exact hormones or a near-match chemical that has similar actions in the body.

Whether or not you need to take hormones (and I include in this category prescription, non-prescription and food sources: if it can act to meet hormone needs in the body, it is an HRT) is pretty much up to you and what you define as the level of health and comfort you wish to experience during menopause. If taking hormones is more distasteful to you than hot flashes and other symptoms, there's really no reason you have to take them. There can be some pretty serious risks to health on either side of the take-or-not HRT question, so you should research hormone actions, consider them in the light of your own personal health risk profile, and decide for yourself how you want to deal with hormone needs. There are drugs that can alleviate some of the symptoms of hormone deficit and there are other health practices that can help limit some of the risks. It's all up to you how you choose to deal with these needs.

And of course we've all heard of the happy, healthy elder who never took hormones and was just fine. I'm really delighted for her, but I have to point out that this cannot be achieved by force of will. We have little control over how well our body is genetically programmed to cope with supplying hormone needs. If yours isn't up to the task, you're not a failure and I would hope you don't punish yourself with guilt. Hormone needs, I repeat, represent basic physical processes, not optional comfort measures. We are not wimps when we choose health and wellbeing in our menopausal years.

I've heard that I should get my hormone levels checked before surgery, so that I can just take enough HRT afterwards to get back to where I know I was feeling good.

Sure, you can spend a few hundred dollars to be tested. But unfortunately, premenopausal hormone levels fluctuate constantly, perimenopausal hormone levels fluctuate wildly, and even postmenopausal hormone levels are only a momentary snapshot. There's no way to know to what extent any hormone level test corresponds to how you feel because of that moment-to-moment variability. Furthermore, if you were fertile, your needs once you are no longer supporting fertility will not be the same. With no uterine cycling to support, that level of hormones will be a gross excess postop.

The other flaw with that premise is that you can look at a test and know how much to put back into the system in HRT. Alas, but it's not that simple. There are so many intersecting influences here that there is just no feasible correlation between levels and supplementation needs. I'm not going into the details here since the Survivor's Guide does it much more thoroughly. What I want to leave you with is the simple statement that it just doesn't work that way. If you want more about the why of it, you'll need to follow the discussions over there.

If it's being menopausal that makes me look old and ugly, can't I just take as many hormones as I used to have so that I stay young looking?

Nope, not a good idea. One of the things we learn in menopause with HRT is that while enough is wonderful, more than enough is hellish. Hormonal excess raises our risks of negative effects and causes some quite unpleasant, if not dangerous, symptoms. And regardless of the risks, HRT just can't turn back time. Your body recognizes ovarian loss or natural menopause as a life transition and behaves accordingly. While HRTs have come a long way since they were first introduced, they remain a relatively crude tool. You can't entirely fool your body with them and they won't reset the clock. Menopause awaits all women; the only part we get to pick is how we respond to the needs it creates.

Ovarian failure following hysterectomy

If you have retained your ovaries when having a hyst, you may be surprised when your hormone output drops after surgery. Sometimes this simply represents slight ovarian insult from the damage to surrounding blood vessels and nerves during surgery, and as healing progresses, these symptoms abate.

But about 50% of the women who retain their ovaries experience menopause within five years of their surgery, irrespective of their age at the time of surgery. This means, for any given individual, a whole range of possible experiences from menopause right after surgery to menopause at whatever time it would otherwise have occurred. The most important thing we can gain from this statistic, though, is the validation that if we are experiencing menopausal symptoms sooner than we'd normally expect, this could be the reason.

It's common for this postop ovarian impairment to be referred to as "sleeping" on many hysterectomy message lists and forums, but the situation is not really as simple as this implication that they might "wake" back up again. While it's true that the impairment—which is actually a drop in their hormonal output—may resolve entirely with time and healing, that is not necessarily the case. Ovarian output is not an on/off function like a light switch. In fact, ovarian output may simply decrease somewhat and remain there; it may fluctuate considerably; it may just decline and keep on declining. There are many patterns of ovarian behavior and operative impairment does not necessarily cause any particular one. But whatever the pattern, if your output decreases below your level of hormone needs (which continue at a low level even though you no longer need to support fertility and uterine cycling), then you will experience some level of menopausal symptoms, proportional to the amount of shortfall in meeting your remaining needs.

It has been some women's unfortunate experience that their doctors are unfamiliar with this phenomenon and deny them any menopausal support on the grounds that because they still have ovaries, those ovaries must be working. If you are in this uncomfortable position, here is some of the documentation that might help you educate your doctor about this outcome.

• "A number of medical studies have documented that ovarian failure occurs frequently in retained ovaries following a hysterectomy... " (source)
• "Another worry is that hysterectomy with ovarian conservation may precipitate early menopause. This seems to be supported by a mean age of ovarian failure in hysterectomized women of 45.4 +/- 4.0 years (standard deviation (SD)) as opposed to a mean age of 49.5 +/- 4.04 years in a non-hysterectomized control group (5). According to the same study, the indication for carrying out a hysterectomy did not change the time of ovarian failure. Postal questionnaires sent to hysterectomized women, with ovarian preservation, suggest that 26.1% (8) to 39% show signs of ovarian failure (6). The type of incision appears not to have any bearing on the failure rate (8)." (source)
• The effect of hysterectomy on the age at ovarian failure: identification of a subgroup of women with premature loss of ovarian function and literature review. (Siddle N; Fertil Steril, 1987 Jan)
• Riedel HH, et al; Ovarian failure phenomena after hysterectomy. (J Reprod Med, 1986 Jul)
• Owens S, et al; Ovarian management at the time of radical hysterectomy for cancer of the cervix. (Gynecol Oncol, 1989 Dec)
• Habelt K, et al; [Symptoms of ovarian failure after hysterectomy in premenopausal women. A retrospective study based on postoperative perception of 245 women] (Zentralbl Gynakol, 1996)
• Menopause: The Journal of The North American Menopause Society, Vol. 5, No. 2, pp. 113-122, Hysterectomy, Ovarian Failure, and Depression, Gautam Khastgir, MD, FRCS, MRCOG, and John Studd, DSc, MD, FRCOG (abstract)
• "If a woman has a hysterectomy that leaves her ovaries in place, she has a 50% chance of suffering ovarian failure within five years of surgery. This is not age dependent." (source)
• Message list posting that cites numerous sources
• Relation between hysterectomy and subsequent ovarian function in a district hospital population, Quinn, A.J.; Barrett, T., Journal of Obstetrics & Gynaecology, Mar94, Vol. 14 Issue 2, p103 (source)
• Siddle N, Sarrel P, Whitehead M. The effect of hysterectomy on the age at ovarian failure identification of a subgroup of women with premature loss of ovarian function an literature review. Fertil Steril 1987 ; 47 : 94-100. (abstract)

Questions for your pre-op appointment

This is a list of basic questions to ask your doctor at pre-op appointments. It may not cover absolutely everything that might be pertinent to your surgery, but it should help you cover the important points. A good way to use this list would be to copy the page, paste it into a word-editing document, add extra lines between the questions, and print it out. Then you can take it to your appointment and write the answers down (or take a mini-recorder and tape them) so you can review them at home, when you have time to think things over. Be sure to jot down any other questions you may think of while reading this, so you remember to ask them, too.

1. What is the full name of my surgery? (Write this down!) What exactly will you remove: uterus? ovary/ies? cervix?
2. Will you be combining this with any other procedures? Appendix removal? Bladder repair? Rectocele? Tummy tuck?
3. How will you remove the organs and where will the incision be? Abdominal (horizontal "bikini"? vertical?)? vaginal? using a laparoscope?
4. Which things you remove will be going to the lab for pathology tests and when will I get the results? If my surgery is for suspected cancer, how soon will I begin treatments and what will they be?
5. Should I donate blood before my surgery? If so, when? If not, what if I need a transfusion? If I don’t need a transfusion, is there something else I should do afterwards to build my blood back up?
6. Right now I am taking (list all of your vitamins, herbs, special dietary practices as well as prescription medications, birth control pills, hrt; if in doubt, list it!). Should I stop them before surgery? If so, when? And when can I go back to taking them after my surgery?
7. Will I have any special surgical preparation: enema? laxative? douche? Will I be shaved? If so, where and by whom? May I do it myself instead?
8. What if I have my period when I’m supposed to have my surgery?
9. I am planning to have my [whatever] pierced or get a tattoo. If I have it done before, how long must it have to heal before the surgery is scheduled? How soon may I have it done afterwards?
10. May I leave my finger- or toenail-polish and/or artificial nails on when I go to the OR? May I leave my wedding ring on?
11. What kind of anesthesia will I have? What if I prefer a different kind? Will I meet with my anesthetist before surgery?
12. How long will my surgery take? Will you report to my family afterwards, while I am still in the Recovery Room? How long will I be in Recovery before I am taken to my room?
13. How will my pain be managed and what will you be giving me? Will I receive it in the Recovery Room? Do I have to ask before I can have it, or will it be given to me? How often may I repeat it? What if that doesn’t work—will I have another option? How will I get that second option?
14. What if I become nauseated after surgery? May I have something for this? May I have it before I vomit? in the Recovery Room?
15. How long will I be on bed rest? When will I get up? How often should I get up?
16. Will I have a catheter into my bladder? Will I be awake when it is put in? When will it be taken out?
17. When can I take a shower? When will I be able to bathe? Use my hot tub?
18. Will I have vaginal bleeding after my surgery? How much and how long?
19. Will I have on special stockings or pneumatic leggings to prevent clots in my legs after surgery? How long will I have to wear them? Will I be receiving any medication for this purpose? Which one, and how long?
20. Will I be hooked up with/using any other equipment or special things after surgery? Tummy binder? Breathing exercise devices?
21. How long will I have an IV after surgery?
22. What will I be taking for post-op gas and constipation? How long will I need this? If I'm not prescribed something and develop these problems, what do you recommend I take?
23. If I am having my ovaries removed, when will I start taking hormones and which ones will I take? What is this choice based on? How can I expect them to make me feel? What if I don’t like the way I feel on the first prescription or think I am having a bad reaction?
24. If I am not having my ovaries removed, how can I tell if they are or are not working post-op? Will I have hot flashes anyway? If my ovaries don’t work right away, what will I experience? How long will I have to experience menopausal symptoms before I can take something to relieve them?
25. What things have to happen before I will be discharged from the hospital? How long should I expect to be in for?
26. When will I see you after I leave the hospital? What if something happens or I have questions about how I'm doing before then?
27. What pain medication and other medications will I go home with? If I run out of pain medication, how do I get more?
28. What kind of problems should I be watching for at home?
29. Do I need to have someone stay with me at home after I am released from the hospital? for how long? Should I arrange for another caregiver or board out my kids and/or pets?
30. What activity restrictions will I have at home? Stairs? Bathing? Driving? Housework including laundry and vacuuming? Lifting how much when? What about my kids or pets—when can I pick them up?
31. What if I do something and it makes my incision/belly really hurt? Can I hurt myself by doing too much too soon? How will I know?
32. Will I need to wear a tummy binder or light girdle at home for belly support? If so, for how long?
33. I am planning to do something special (go to my son’s wedding 2 weeks after surgery—move to a new state a month postop—return to grad school classes of 3 hours a day at about 3 weeks after surgery—take a tropical vacation 2 months after surgery—start paragliding lessons—whatever) in the first 6 months after surgery: is this going to be okay? Should I reschedule it or my surgery to accommodate this plan?
34. When can I return to my job? (Note: be sure that your doctor knows the exact nature of your work! A work-at-home web designer does not have the same physical demands as a warehouse worker toting hundred-pound sacks of cement mix working a twelve-hour shift.) If I return to work and find it too strenuous, will you authorize an extended leave or a limited return to work?
35. When may I have sexual intercourse (penetration)? May I engage in other forms of sexual activity (including orgasm) before that time? If so, when?
36. When may I resume exercising? I normally do for exercise (walk, run, swim, step aerobics, ride horseback, lift weights, bike)—is there any part of that activity I should avoid at first? When and how can I work on regaining tone in my belly? Will you refer me to physical therapy after surgery so that I can work with them on preventing internal scarring and regaining physical conditioning safely (check to be sure your insurance will cover this, but many will if your doctor orders it)? When can I do Kegels again, and should I?
37. If I have more questions after this appointment, how can I get them answered: email? fax?